Mind Over Manner

 


Look for Connection, Find the Connection, Stay Connected, Support the Connection 

"Connection" and "observation" were the takeaway messages I took from our session with Sue and her team of actors, as they taught us us about neurodivesity through theatre. 

Sue Haldane introduced us to a kupu in te reo: takiwātanga which means "in their own time and space." This is the Māori word for autism or those who show neurodiverse ways of being. 

I find this word really helpful.  A word that lets people be who they are. It doesn't draw a box around someone like so many labels do. 

These sessions with Sue and her team were emotional! Not that I cried, but I went home feeling like I had experienced all these intense emotions - because we had been experiencing what it is like to be in the shoes of a neurodiverse student and to teach neurodiverse students. 

Of course it also brought back a lot of memories. Hard memories. Students. Experiences of meltdowns (my own and others). My own feelings of failure or inadequacy.  I have to remember not to judge my actions in the past based on what I know now. 

Sue reminded us that so often we are looking for outcomes, not connection. Without connection with students we can't get outcomes. We saw how to connect with students relationally and communicate calmness through our body language (getting down low, NOT talking after a meltdown, walking slowly). 

In some ways, I would love to have a clear formula that I could use with neurodiverse students. A formula I knew was going to work every time. Failing that, a small list of formula that I could memorise and apply to each situation. Failing that, a larger list of formula I could refer to so I could do the right thing in each situation. Failing that, a database I could search for how to respond to given behaviours. 

Then I remember that I am an individual and the students I learn alongside are individuals. Part of the joy of life and learning is realising that each encounter, each relationship is unique. I don't really want someone to use a formula on me, I would rather they got to know me. So I will try and do likewise. 

I was reminded that one of the greatest gifts we can give to someone and ourselves is: 

observe 

From our seats on the benches, we were able to observe many different behaviours and situations, looking from the outside in. Usually, as teachers, we are the ones right in the middle of the situation. It reminded me to take time to observe how students act, to really notice who they are, to really listen to what their words and actions are saying about them and their needs. Then together we can work out a plan to best meet both of our needs. 

I am going to add photos of my notes for my own reference. 

Let the learning continue... 








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